Tonight Nicole asked to call her Dad again. She has asked occasionally since I reached out to her Dad's family to try and speak with him about the hurt he is causing his Daughters. I've finally gotten over the shock that they haven't even bothered to reply. Each time Nicole has asked to call I have been able to push it off onto her therapist. I would say, "Let's wait until we see Gayle so we can get her opinion on the situation."
I really think it's time for Nicole to accept the fact that her Dad is not going to come visit her. I now believe it is in her best interest to stop asking him and avoid the hurt altogether. It's not fair that she continues to be disappointed every time she calls him. No one deserves that kind of pain, especially a 10 year old little girl. I only want her therapist in on this difficult conversation in hopes she will know the appropriate words to soothe her.
How do you tell an anxious 10 year old girl that her Dad is probably never going to come and see her?
It is sad when people are not capable of letting go, and it seems to be the situation here on this blog. I'm from a very bad divorce, with children, but even AFTER everything that has come about, I would never continue to live in the past, but move forward with my new husband, and forgoe what has happened......heal, and stop living in the past
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