It's a rare occasion that I bring up my ex-husband in a group setting. I certainly didn't mean to do it yesterday, but it just slipped out! My new Father-in-Law was telling a story about restaurants in New York and it reminded me of when I had been to the same well known Deli. In conversation I mentioned that I had eaten there with my ex on a weekend get-a-way!
I think in most families such a blurb would have been a trivial comment, but in my case it was pivotal remark. I would soon remember why I seldom mention him when we are out. I nonchalantly glanced down at Nicole as I made the slip of the tongue. I knew I might have upset her. At first I saw the shock and confusion on her face, as she too knew this was a rare occasion. Her dazed look instantly changed into a somber frown as I confirmed that I was indeed talking about her Daddy. She had intently been listening to our stories up until that point.
As we continued to chat about food, it wasn't long before Nicole slithered off to be alone. I knew as she walked away I should intervene. My Girl was unexpectedly reminded of the Dad she hasn't seen in almost 4 years. What do you say to a 10 year old that is saddened at the mention of her very own Father?